Women respond differently to an unplanned pregnancy. They could at one moment feel very excited, and at another moment feel overcome with fear. Support from close friends helps women navigate unplanned pregnancy. Simply knowing they are not alone will go a long way and bring peace. Here is how you can support your friend experiencing an unplanned pregnancy.
Respond Positively to Your Friend Experiencing An Unplanned Pregnancy
Did one of your friends recently tell you that she’s pregnant? Try to respond positively to the news, even if your friend is not sure what she wants to do next. Imagine the emotions that are running through her head. She may be asking herself:
- How could this happen?
- How will I afford a child?
- Should I drop out of school?
- How far along am I?
- Should I keep the baby?
- What will my family and friends think?
As your friend is going through a whirlwind of emotions and questions, make sure to reassure her along the way. Your constant support will reduce her anxiety and encourage her. Your reaction could be the only positive one she receives from her family and friends. Your support counts.
Listen to Your Friend’s Needs
As the pregnancy news continues to sink in, she may need someone to vent to and validate her feelings throughout her journey. Do your best to listen and ask good questions that highlight her strengths and abilities, and show you care. Sometimes in the midst of the surprising news, it can be difficult to think straight. If she is unsure about what’s next, seek support from a pregnancy center like ours at Boston Center for Pregnancy Choices to further help her process all of her options and all of her emotions.
Offer Support and Encouragement
More than anything, your friend experiencing an unplanned pregnancy wants to know she is not alone. She already trusts you as a friend and may look to you for support and encouragement. You don’t have to know what to say all the time, but your consistent presence and knowing that you care is enough. Take time to be with her, cheer her up, and even bring her a home-cooked meal. Both words of encouragement and acts of kindness will show how much you care.